It happened again! One of Hollywood’s most beloved couples, Seal and Heidi Klum, have called it quits on their marriage after a mere seven years of “commitment” to each other.
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This is riding off the coattails of Hollywood’s previous juicy split between Katy Perry and Rusell Crowe, er, I mean Brand. Of course, I can’t forget to give a shout out to Kim Kardashian and her husband of 72 days, Kris Humphries.
The rate of divorce these days is redic! I’m not just going off of Hollywood standards. It seems everywhere we look, some couple is signing on the dotted line of divorce, negating all the vows they made and turning their backs on the life they promised to each other.
CNN reported on the split between Seal and Klum, releasing a statement from their publicist that read, “While we have enjoyed seven loving, loyal and happy years of marriage, after much soul-searching we have decided to separate … “We have had the deepest respect for one another throughout our relationship and continue to love each other very much, but we have grown apart.”
Ahh, the old,” growing apart” statement. It’s soooo lame! Have some respect for your fans and at least give the public the tried and true, ” irreconcilable differences.” There is mystery and intrigue behind that one. It could allude to anything — maybe you discovered he had a fetish for eating cottage cheese out of your favorite Calvin Klein suede boots or he caught you hiding a stolen baby in a tent out in the backyard. Those differences have some weight to them — but that you were, “growing apart,” UGH!!!
In Mark 10:5-9, Jesus states, ” But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother will and be united to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate.”
I repeat, “two become one” to my husband all the time. It’s a reminder to us both that we made a commitment to one another to become a unit, brought together and blessed by God. If I trusted God to bring me this man who I chose to give my life to, then I also have to trust that God knows the challenges ahead of us and that through God’s strength, we can survive whatever the future brings.
Of course, you’d have to be a fool not to know that this is easier said than done. We all know someone whose marriage didn’t survive. Anyone, from couples who’ve been together for six months to as much as 25 years, can fall victim to divorce. It’s upsetting and painful for all who are involved.
Most people would say that a marriage didn’t survive because the couple “fell out of love.” I think that it might be more a, “falling out of faith” in God. As christians, we need to recognize, not a reliance on our human strength and conditional love, but on God’s super natural strength and everlasting love! I have to believe it’s through love — God’s love, the unconditional kind that can only come from Him that any marriage is able to remain steadfast. By turning our hearts to Christ and surrendering our broken relationships over to his control, we can at least have hope for survival. If we choose, instead, to rely on what our own feelings are telling us, we are doomed. Feelings can not always be trusted and the heart is, “more deceitful than all else,” Jeremiah 17:9. God did not mean to unite us and then leave us. His plan is to unite us and guide us through — all the way through.
My hubby and I have been doing a Bible study called, “The Love Dare.” It’s based on the movie Fire Proof, starring Kirk Cameron (totally had a crush on him in “Growing Pains!”)
OMG- Lov'n the Suspenders!
The movie is about a couple that has lost the spark in their marriage, their love has dwindled and they now take one another for granted. Kirk Cameron’s character is given this book by his dad that is 40 days worth of dares he must take involving his spouse. For example, one day he has to buy his wife something nice (not gonna lie and say this dare isn’t one of my favorites ;).) On another day, he has to ask her to list three things that he does that upset her. In the study, each couple has to watch the movie and then play out the dares in the book. The idea behind it is to grow closer to your spouse by allowing God to get closer to you through the action of these dares. Some of them are really intense and couples may not, “feel” like doing them, but that’s just the point. They’re teaching us to go beyond what we “feel” and do what LOVE calls us to do.
My hubby was very reluctant to do this study with me because we have only been married a short while and are still in the “honeymoon” phase of things. He kept saying, “Why do we have to do this again? This is for couples who don’t love each other anymore. ” I explained to him that while I loved him now, I may not be able to say the same thing after 60 more years of watching him leave his dirty dishes in the sink.
Though it was strange at the start to complete tasks that come easily to my husband and I, such as calling each other up in the middle of the work day to see if the other needs anything, what we have discovered through this study is that these simple gestures can quickly fade if we don’t keep a watchful eye on them. Marriages are like gardens. They need constant care and attending. God planted the seed of love for your partner inside of you and it is your duty to nurture that seed, help it to grow and water it with the sort of love that 1 Corinthians 13:4 talks about — a patient, kind and unconditional love. It is the love that only an all-powerful God can reveal in our hearts.
My prayer is that our society would stop taking the bond of marriage for granted and be more willing to stand by their word, stand by their commitment. Come on people — “tener cojones” to stick it out and trust in God to do a mighty act in those marriages!